Fleshlights : Our Guide to the #1 Men’s Sex Toy

Fleshlights are the most popular men’s sex toy on the planet -and with good reason. Fleshlights are well built, customizable with a TON of options and varieties, and they are relatively easy to camouflage and hide from pesky people you don’t want to find your sex toy.  Also – they feel amazing.

On the outside the Fleshlight looks like a large flashlight – hence the name.  But unscrewing the plastic top reveals a soft flesh colored device with a small tunnel you place your penis in.   The flesh insert can be removed from the outer plastic casing with a wide variety of molds and styles to choose from.

(note: our favorite Fleshlight insert, or sleeve as they’re called, is the Stoya Destroya Fleshlight model!)

Using a Fleshlight is simple enough – lube it up, stick it in, and then slide it up and down.  But with the numerous options available when creating one, picking out a Fleshlight can be a bit daunting. So we put together this small guide to Fleshlights to get you going on your search.

Fleshlights at Fleshlight.com


Fleshlights on Amazon

Here’s a small variety of Fleshlights so you can see what we’re talking about these all come from Amazon.com – one of our two recommened places for purchasing Fleshlights (see below).

Fleshlights from Amazon


Fleshlights from Fleshlight.com

Here some links to various Fleshlights at the official homepage of the world’s number one sex toy – Fleshlight.com.



What is a Fleshlight?

Looking at the pictures should tell you what a Fleshlight is. It’s a technologically advanced model of the classic “pocket pussy” that men have been enjoying ever since there we sex toy.  It’s also the world’s best and most popular male sex toy.

Fleshlights consist of out casings and inner sleeves.  When you purchase one it’s important to know that you’re getting both the plastic casing and the inner sleeve, and to understand how they interact.  Sleeves and cases are interchangables.

Unless otherwise specified, Fleshlights are made of a patented Real Feel Super Skin®.   When a Fleshlight is dry is feels soft and spongy, when they are wet or lubed up they will feel very close to the real thing.

Fleshlight’s Real Feel Super skin is Phthalate free. Phthalates are defined as “any of various salts or esters of phthalic acid used especially as plasticizers and in solvents.” They are not good and Fleshlights have NONE. Fleshlights are Phthalate free.

They have different molds inside – from nubs to ribs, and many more styles. We talk about the different varieties below.  This is where the real difference in Fleshlights resides, and why we love the Stoya Destroya model.  The sleeve is AWESOME and feels the best of any of the models we’ve seen.

On average, a Fleshlight is about 10 inches in length and 4 inches around with an instertable length of 9.5 inches – which is a GREAT size for a men’s sex toy.  Most textures can accomadate a girth of 7 inches!

In General, Fleshlights don’t need batteries or electricity – you just move them up and down, but one variety – the Vibro – does take 3 batteries to power three seperate vibrating eggs that give an amazing sensation.

How big is the Fleshlight?

The Fleshlight is approximately 10 inches in length and 3.5 inches in diameter with an insertable length of 9.5 inches and most textures can accommodate men with a girth up to 7 inches.

How do you Use a Fleshlight?

The best Fleshlight is a warm Fleshlight. We recommend putting your Fleshlight sleeve in warm water for a little bit before you use it to warm it up. But not too hot. You don’t want it to burn when you use.

Then put the sleeve back into the outer canister. The closed end of the Fleshlight can be twisted to increase or decrease suction. Apply a healthy dollop of sex lube to the end and you’re ready to go. It’s an amazing sensation, much much better than a hand alone.

How Do You Clean A Fleshlight?

To clean it, all you have to do is wash it with warm water. Sleeves are open at the end so water will run right through making it very easy clean. However, one caveat. Don’t use soap! Soap can damage it.

When you’re done rinsing it off, dry it with a towel, and let the sleeve site out in a cool dark area with good ventilation to dry. When it’s completely dry, place it back in its container to store it.

If it gets too dirty or you want to clean it really well, then you should use a little isopropyl alcohol. When you’re done, you can sprinkle a little bit of corn starch to keep it fresh. Don’t use baby powder or talcum powder. It can create a film.

You CAN use a Fleshlight in water, and using it in a shower or bath tub is no problem. As we said above, just make sure you don’t get soap on the Fleshlight. It can develop a film or break down the material.

Fleshlight Sleeves

Fleshlights come in two parts – an outer canister and an inner, removable, sleeve. One of the coolest things about Fleshlights is that the sleeves are interchangeable. You can get several sleeves for use with a single case. Although we recommend getting multiple cases and sleeves for better storage.

Sleeves come in fixed sizes. HOWEVER, It’s important to note: The Wonder Wave, Speed Bump, and Super Ribbed sleeves are all considered ‘super tight’ – each canal is roughly 1/2 inch (13 mm). These are NOT available in the original 3/4 inch (19 mm) or ultra tight 1/4 inch (10 mm) diameter canal.

Basically, here’s the size breakdown for Fleshlights.   Fleshlight sleeves ranked from most tight to least tight: Super Tight, Wonder Wave/Speed Bump/Super Ribbed, STU, Original.   Larger than average men often choose: Original Pink Lady or Speed Bump.  Smaller than average men often choose: Super Tight or Sex In A Can.

The best types of lubricants to use with a Fleshlight are water-based. You should definitely not use oil-based lubricants because they will destroy the sleeve’s texture over time.

Where to Purchase a Fleshlight

You can find Fleshlights at most good sex toys stores. But we recommend two places in particular: Fleshlight.com and Amazon.com. Fleshlight.com is Fleshlight’s own store and very safe. However, we recognize that a lot of people feel safer shopping at Amazon, so we recommend them.

There aren’t as many varieties of Fleshlights available at Amazon as there are a Fleshlight’s own site, and they are a little hard to find. But Amazon IS completely safe and anonymous and you can order all kinds of other stuff when you order your Fleshlight.

Fleshlights at Amazon

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